Marriage | Couples
Perhaps one of the most common reasons we hear couples say why they are seeking marriage/couples counseling is to improve their communication. Did you know that most communication is non-verbal body language? Depending on which study you look at, anywhere between 85-93% of total communication is non-verbal. Types of non-verbal body language include facial expressions, gestures, body movements and posture, eye contact, and touch. Improving communication can go a long way in helping you feel closer to your partner no matter what stage of the relationship you are in.
Often times there is more work to be done than just improving communication. Navigating one’s own emotions can be tough work on its own, but adding another person into the mix can seem impossible at times. This is where marriage/couples counseling comes in. The therapist’s job is not to fix the relationship. Their job is to facilitate a safe therapeutic space where difficult conversations can take place and help model and show the couple healthier ways of communicating and relating to one another.
When couples come in who have been struggling for quite some time, there is one simple question that is asked of both individuals. Perhaps you have been together for five, ten, or even twenty-five years, and now you feel far apart from your spouse.
Perhaps the busyness of kids or work has taken up so much time and emotional energy that you find yourself waking up next to someone you seem to not know anymore like you once did. The question we have for you is, “Are you willing to fight for what you have?” Good marriage/couples counseling is not easy. It takes tough work, but when both individuals come together and are ready to work through tough issues, the possibilities for healing are endless.